We so often compare our experiences with the best version we have had of that experience, which can result in being disappointed.
Why wouldn’t we want to have more of the great things that happen to us?
What we don’t consider is that the new experience can be close, but never exactly the same.
If we stopped trying to match and compare, and just enjoy things for what they are, we could like them just as much, even if they are different. They might actually be better in different ways!
Here is my simple example.
A friend and I went on holiday to Granada in Spain a few years ago, and we had the most amazing gambas al ajillo (prawns in garlic olive oil to you and I).
They were just perfection and more.
We went back a few nights later and ordered the same dish, and it just wasn’t as good.
Now don’t get me wrong, they were tasty, and I’ve not had any better than those either, but because they didn’t reach the dizzy heights of amazingness that gambas al ajillo numero uno did, that second visit is forever tarnished.
It shouldn’t be though.
I know that example sounds trivial (I am massively into food), but it can be applied to other experiences I, and maybe you, tend to compare.
Wouldn’t it be better to fully appreciate all the good experiences we have, instead of comparing them to the first?
Thank you for reading, and as always, I’d love to hear your views on this.