I’m a natural worrier.
I worry about things that shouldn’t be worrying, and I worry when I have nothing to worry about, because I think there is something I should be worrying about.
From conversations I have had, there are more of you out there!
So, let me tell you a story… (It’s quick and relevant, I promise).
A few years ago, I completed a short Spanish course. After it ended, I really wanted to go to Spain so that I could practice what I had learned. None of my friends had time off work, so after mulling it over, I decided to go on a solo trip to Madrid for a few days.
Now don’t get me wrong, travelling alone is a big deal anyway, but let me tell you about how much worrying I did even though it was my own choice to book the trip:
What should I pack? What would the weather be like? What if I got lonely? What if I couldn’t remember any Spanish? What if I got lost? What if I didn’t like it? Was 3 days long enough? Was 3 days too long? How would I find my way from the airport to the hotel? What if I forgot my passport? What if I missed my plane, it went on and on and on.
What it came down to is I WAS SCARED. This felt like a huge thing for me to do, and I was scared. It’s a big thing for me to admit to, being scared, so I find all the things that could go wrong instead.
I spent so much time worrying and ignoring the fear, that I didn’t stop to think about the things I could do to ease some of the worry, which would make me feel less scared.
I’ve realised since then that when I worry a lot about a thing, it’s because I’m scared. Once I realise that, I then start to focus on taking action.
For example, let’s take the worries I had, and think about ways to reduce them:
- What should I pack? – Check the weather and decide accordingly
- What would the weather be like? – Check the forecast
- What if I got lonely? – I won’t know until I get there, take a good book just in case.
- What if I couldn’t remember any Spanish? – Get a phrase book in case I get stuck, and practice more beforehand.
- What if I got lost? – Get a map
- What if I didn’t like it? – I won’t know until I get there. If it’s that bad, have spare money for an earlier flight home
- Was 3 days long enough? – If it’s not, I can always visit again
- Was 3 days too long? – Then I’ll have more time to explore
- How would I find my way from the airport to the hotel? – Check online information or put money aside for a taxi
- What if I forgot my passport? – Well if this happens, none of the above will matter…I joke…Make a list and double check before leaving.
Do you know what, I had a great time and it’s one of the best things I ever did!
Now I know sometimes we have things going on in our lives that are much, much bigger than what I have shared today, but the point I am making is that in the instances where we have some control, we should be thinking about what we can do (and doing them) to lessen the worry.
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